We came to meet this Earth here. Whether we love to hear it or not, we will DIE one moment and others will enter and the Earth will remain. We have a duty to nurture and preserve the planet for those who are coming after us, in like manner that those who came before us did for us. That future, therefore, requires that children who will handle such immense responsibility are hatched in balanced, emotionally stable, and morally conscious ovens.
I am an African. A black man with a culture. I may be wrong, but I still believe and hold firmly that marriage and family unit remains the most secure and stable place to bring up such children that will brace for the challenges of the future. I believe strongly in family values and the strength of the whole. The mummy-daddy-children, journey of life and I do not quarrel with whatever else you believe.
The trending attempt by intrepid merchants to make unjust gains out of despising the institution of marriage must be resisted evidentially and factually. Though courts send criminals to jail, they are still called the temples of justice because, it is not the court, but the criminal’s crime that sends them to jail. In like manner, when partners scam themselves in marriage, they should desist from putting the blame on the institution of marriage and hold themselves responsible for their actions and inactions.
I don’t know of any religious or traditional or scientific postulation that ever told anyone that marriage was easy or that marriage was always going to be a roller coaster of enjoyment without endurance. If you know any, refer me, please. Is there any such endeavor in life where you only enjoy without enduring? Where does that exist? If you find any such endeavor, run for your dear life. You hear such hocus-pocus only from manipulative pulpits. Marriage isn’t your problem. Marriage isn’t at fault. It is the two or any number of you involved that scammed yourselves. Hold yourselves squarely responsible, not marriage.
Even our walk with God is a constant work in progress. The offspring of our mother’s umbilical cord too have not ceased to pick quarrels with us. The confidants in our business ventures have not missed bellying our hopes. There is practically no relationship in this existence without skirmishes. The anti-dote has always been endurance, tolerance, and equanimity. Unless it is life-threatening, walking out of relationships, not just marriages, just because of flimsy issues as it is trending today, is one of the most dangerous swords piercing the heart of the very nucleus of societal cohesion and the future will be hiding and waiting for all of us with a knife.
Citizen Agba Jalingo is the Publisher of CrossRiverWatch and a rights activist, a Cross Riverian, and writes from Lagos.
NB: Opinions expressed in this article are strictly attributable to the author, Agba Jalingo, and do not represent the opinion of CrossRiverWatch or any other organization the author works for/with.
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