FamilyTies With Capt. Cassie (Part Eight)

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Phew! Did I just go through that interview without yelling? Yes, I sure did. On a flight back home, I sat next to an elderly man say about 70 years old. In my attempt to be helpful, we got talking and talked all through the flight.

We started off with pleasantries and before I knew it, we were talking about family and marriage. He says, marriage of these days is more or less a contract between two people who have different goals and the only thing in common is the children they hope to bring to the world.

He went on to talk about what it was like back then when he married his wife. She never raised her voice at him, how he never saw the four walls of his kitchen because he didn’t have any business there.

She would serve him food personally, which he says isn’t a common practice nowadays. She planned trips when he gave the itinerary, she made their room up herself even though they had maids because he insisted she does it herself.

Even when they had a fight or went into some sort of argument, he did most of the talking because she was too respectful to talk back (I called it intimidation).

Once he says, his wife came across a letter a girlfriend had written to him asking he gets her a few things from the trip abroad, and he says she went ahead to show it to their daughter and her husband whom they were visiting. He was so embarrassed and when they returned home from that trip, he went straight to his in laws and asked for a divorce.

But he says he did that to drive home a point that he is the man of their home and could do whatever he wanted. We argued back and forth about mothers who take up jobs and leave the job of grooming these children in the hands of the maid, that’s a topic for another day.

But thinking about everything he said, it makes sense because I for one, is someone who thinks every woman should work and earn her own money but then, what good is the money to you when the very children you are working so hard for and spend this money on, become uncontrollable, no manners, with no morals instilled in them?

I felt really guilty even though there were some things he said that were a bit out of line, like when he said he would beat a woman who tries challenging his authority!

This comment was made when the lady next to him asked what he would do if his boss who is a lady, reprimands him. He didn’t think a woman should talk when in the midst of men, shouldn’t talk back at her husband when in an argument and I’m asking how are you in an argument when it’s one person doing the talking?

We have a whole lot to learn from the old folks. We don’t have to take in everything, hook, line and sinker but sieve through and do a lot of listening too. One last thing he told me and this is for all our beautiful wives out there, should you ever walk into your home and meet your spouse with a woman in bed, just turn around and leave.

Easier said than done right? My thoughts exactly but coming from him, it just might be right because he says your husband will spend the rest of his life trying to make it up to you. Hahahahaha.

Peace out folks. Have a fruitful week ahead and thanks to all my fans. Mr Ken, your words were very encouraging. See you next week.

Drop me a note @ ethanzplace@icloud.com ,ethanzplace@gmail.com. I sure enjoy reading from you

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